Our minds are like magic! Whatever you tell it becomes reality! Don’t believe me…think back in your life when you told yourself that you excelled at something. I bet you WERE good at it! Think of when you told yourself or others that you were fat. I would venture to guess that you didn’t eat well, junk food was king, and maybe you WERE a bit over weight. Whatever you think and say out loud is kind of like asking the genie in the bottle for a wish. Whatever you ask, he/she makes it so. I learned this powerful lesson during the years after my divorce. I used to tell anyone that would listen to me how my husband left me 8.5 months pregnant on Christmas day! I was the victim of my unfortunate divorce and I wanted everyone to know. “It wasn’t my fault!” I would say. “He left me with these two kids…I don’t want to be a single mom.” Unfortunately, this thinking and behavior took away all of my physical and emotional power, not to mention it stifled any chance at happiness. Every time I told that story I could physically feel my power escape from my body. I finally got tired of that victimhood mentality and actions and I started to believe and tell myself a different story. I started to take back my power and as I’m sure you understand by now, I had to do that in my mind first. I had to tell myself a different narrative and when I did, my life started to change for the better. My self-esteem came back with a vengeance. I reestablished my membership at the gym. I found the courage to leave the business partnership with my ex-husband that I maintained for four long years after our divorce, which was so unhealthy by the way!! I made one positive life change after another…and believe me, those adjustments were long overdue. One of my favorite scholars on the power of the mind is a man by the name of Earl Nightingale. He is a master teacher of this concept and frankly whenever I start to feel down for whatever reason, I reopen the YouTube videos that others have posted of Earl Nightingale. My favorite recording from Mr. Nightingale is called THE STRANGEST SECRET. It is worth a listen. I will put the link to the written transcript of the recording here http://www.nightingale.com/articles/the-strangest-secret/ or you can just go to YouTube and listen. It is about 30 minutes long so please reserve a half an hour to really listen intently to this amazing lecture. Listen from your smartphone as you put on your make-up and do your hair in the morning or as you shave if you’re a guy. There is not a week that goes by that I don’t listen to this man’s talks. He is a genius and he re-energizes me. I promise you, when you are done listening, you will feel like you can conquer the world.
So tip number 5—Cultivate a positive mindset. As Mr. Nightingale so wisely admonishes, our minds are like a farmer’s field. Whatever you plant in it will surely grow. You can plant corn (yummy nutrients/positive thinking) or you can plant nightshade (a deadly poison/negativity)…it’s all up to you!
Until my next post…with LOVE,