Reinventing Rita’s Post Divorce TIP #5:

The Extraordinary Power Of Your Mind


Our minds are like magic! Whatever you tell it becomes reality! Don’t believe me…think back in your life when you told yourself that you excelled at something. I bet you WERE good at it! Think of when you told yourself or others that you were fat. I would venture to guess that you didn’t eat well, junk food was king, and maybe you WERE a bit over weight. Whatever you think and say out loud is kind of like asking the genie in the bottle for a wish. Whatever you ask, he/she makes it so. I learned this powerful lesson during the years after my divorce. I used to tell anyone that would listen to me how my husband left me 8.5 months pregnant on Christmas day! I was the victim of my unfortunate divorce and I wanted everyone to know. “It wasn’t my fault!” I would say. “He left me with these two kids…I don’t want to be a single mom.” Unfortunately, this thinking and behavior took away all of my physical and emotional power, not to mention it stifled any chance at happiness. Every time I told that story I could physically feel my power escape from my body. I finally got tired of that victimhood mentality and actions and I started to believe and tell myself a different story. I started to take back my power and as I’m sure you understand by now, I had to do that in my mind first. I had to tell myself a different narrative and when I did, my life started to change for the better. My self-esteem came back with a vengeance. I reestablished my membership at the gym. I found the courage to leave the business partnership with my ex-husband that I maintained for four long years after our divorce, which was so unhealthy by the way!! I made one positive life change after another…and believe me, those adjustments were long overdue. One of my favorite scholars on the power of the mind is a man by the name of Earl Nightingale. He is a master teacher of this concept and frankly whenever I start to feel down for whatever reason, I reopen the YouTube videos that others have posted of Earl Nightingale. My favorite recording from Mr. Nightingale is called THE STRANGEST SECRET. It is worth a listen. I will put the link to the written transcript of the recording here or you can just go to YouTube and listen. It is about 30 minutes long so please reserve a half an hour to really listen intently to this amazing lecture. Listen from your smartphone as you put on your make-up and do your hair in the morning or as you shave if you’re a guy. There is not a week that goes by that I don’t listen to this man’s talks. He is a genius and he re-energizes me. I promise you, when you are done listening, you will feel like you can conquer the world.

So tip number 5—Cultivate a positive mindset. As Mr. Nightingale so wisely admonishes, our minds are like a farmer’s field. Whatever you plant in it will surely grow. You can plant corn (yummy nutrients/positive thinking) or you can plant nightshade (a deadly poison/negativity)…it’s all up to you!

Until my next post…with LOVE,

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